WHO IS THE LEADER IN MARRIAGE

Who is the Leader in marriage?This question has actually being the headache of most newlyweds. Today lets delve deeper into this topic from the Bible's point of view....

 “Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22)

There it is. One of the most fiercely debated Bible verses concerning marriage. “Why should the wife do all the submitting?”

That is the hot question. But here is the greater truth: the wife is not the one who needs to do all the submitting … this verse does not stand alone. Remember the one before it? “… submitting to one another in the fear of God”(Ephesians 5:21).And here’s one more: “Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others” (Philippians 2:4). So what does submission really mean? Actually, the matter of submission becomes important when opinions differ over a decision even with all the facts on the table.

The only solution is to submit to the judgment of a tiebreaker. Tom and Dennis had been friends for years. Both were computer wizards and had held executive positions. Across the years, they talked often about their work and developed respect and admiration for each other. Both had saved large sums of their huge salaries.

Forgiveness When Cheated On

When two people become married their ideal is to accommodate each other in what ever way they can. So where are the answers to be found? Possibly in the lust of our own self-satisfaction? When each partner is fulfilling the needs of each other the marriage runs smooth.

But when cheating steps in, Forgiveness Can HELP.

Straight Talk

Let us get straight into how to forgive a cheating girlfriend problem. To start, you have to be certain that you're in-control of your reactions prior to discussing the problem with your girlfriend. If you're full of rage and anger and bitterness towards your girl and all of your thoughts tend to be about making her pay or be miserable, then it is too early to cope with her committing adultery.

Signs of Cheating Partners

When two people become married their ideal is to accommodate each other in what ever way they can. So where are the answers to be found? Possibly in the lust of our own self-satisfaction? When each partner is fulfilling the needs of each other the marriage runs smooth.

Leave Signs

A cheating partner will leave signs of their cheating on their husband wife or girlfriend. When uncertain of suspicious signs of your cheating man or woman it is best not to confront them. The confrontation will make them aware of their mistake, causing them to clean up their act and possibly make it more difficult to catch them.

These signs listed below were compiled by years of detective experience by our local detective.  They are somewhat dated, but the signs still apply today.  With the advancement of  technology,  the truth is found out much more rapidly than in the past.

Attentiveness

Signs Your Woman Is Cheating

When two people become married their ideal is to accommodate each other in what ever way they can. So where are the answers to be found? Possibly in the lust of our own self-satisfaction? When each partner is fulfilling the needs of each other the marriage runs smooth.

Determine The Signs
Typically, infidelity is committed more frequently by males. However, these days, many girlfriends are having illicit relationships. If you need to determine the signs girlfriend is cheating on you. The first thing is to be extremely attentive and responsive to the issues that are occurring around you. Girlfriends that are cheating will leave hidden signs of their infidelity

Why Do People Cheat In Relationships

When two people become married their ideal is to accommodate each other in what ever way they can. So where are the answers to be found? Possibly in the lust of our own self-satisfaction? When each partner is fulfilling the needs of each other the marriage runs smooth.

The Reason
The reason people cheat in relationship on one another is quite simple. The partners are not meeting the expectations of each other. One of the partners will desire the other to respond the way they feel they should to accommodate their needs. By doing this there is no trust and respect for the individuality of their partner. The same is true when there is a, preconceived thought on how they want their partner to respond in a marriage and it does not happen. When this happens neither partner will do anything to accommodate each other, but begin to demand change to their preconceived idea of a perfect relationship.

The Little Things

Why Do Women Cheat On Good Men

This is a question that a lot of good men would like to know the answer to. Especially when they are going through the experience and dealing with the emotional downfall.

It is a difficult experience for all men when their partner cheats on them. It is sad state of affairs often being left in the dark as to to why. Women have several reason why they cheat.  By understanding their outlook you will be able to prevent it from happening in the future and understand better what pushed her to do something like that.

Biggest Reason
One of the biggest reasons why some women would do the unthinkable is that they just do not feel important or cherished by their men. A woman needs to feel important to her man, she needs to feel that she is appreciated and when she lacks that she might look for it somewhere else. Most women put so much into their relationships, that when they feel neglected and unappreciated, they are overcome with a feeling of sadness and worthlessness. Also know as intimidation.

Left For Another Man
First off, if your wife left you for another man, there is a chance that she was experiencing sexual dissatisfaction. While it is by no means a good reason to break years of hard work and growing together, she may feel reluctant to tell you about it and would rather seek that satisfaction from someone different providing sexual communications to accommodate her needs

No excuse for cheating

1. If you are a highly sexual person, commit to someone you find sexy. Don’t marry yet still wander around outside because your kind of sexiness cannot be found at home.

2. If your relationship/marriage is going through issues, cheating will not solve them. Cheating only complicates things. Love is not for cowards who look for the easy way and escape route; but for the brave who make it work.

3. If your partner cheats on you, don’t revenge by cheating back. No tit for tat. No “two can play that game”. Don’t demean yourself and lower your values and principles just because your partner did. End the love. Walk out with your dignity intact.

Ways people express love

One of the best, but most challenging things about love, is that each of us feel, express, and experience it differently.

Perhaps this is why it’s such a difficult emotion to explain, because of how subjective it can be.

At first, this may all seem great. But over time, you may verbally express your love more than you do physically. Your partner hears words, but sees no actions to back them up. This can make them doubt your feelings towards them, or make them feel unappreciated.

Words of affirmation.
Words of affirmation are important when expressing your appreciation, regardless of how small the thing is that someone’s done for you. Some people, though, are less verbally expressive and may communicate using one of the other love languages.
Their idea of reciprocating what you do may be through acts of service or receiving gifts, so they’ll do things for you or give you a token of their appreciation. But if you don’t feel love in this language, you’ll eventually begin to wonder if they appreciate you and everything you do for them. This is why it’s important to not only express your appreciation verbally, but to communicate to your significant other how you feel love.

Phone etiquette rules for couples

Phone use can affect your relationship/marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone.
1. Don’t make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you’re with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something.

2. Save your partner’s phone number using a special title like “Hubby”, “Love”, “Wife”, “Sweetie”. Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone.

3. Answer your partner’s phone call with loving affectionate words like “Hi love”, “Hey honey”. How a conversation starts determines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone.

Sex steroids

This subject has being ringing bells in a lot of couples mind. Today lets go much deeper into the

subject of sex steroids. Sex steroids are fat soluble compounds that are important in reproduction, sexual function, and sexual development. The endocrine glands are responsible for the production of sex steroids in both men and women. In most human beings, sex steroids are secreted over the course of an entire lifetime, though the levels of production and release often vary. For example, the level of production often increases when a person reaches puberty and then declines in conjunction with old age.

Sex During Menstruation

This subject has being ringing bells in a lot of couples mind. Today lets go much deeper into the subject of sex during menstruation. Generally, sex is safe during menstruation. None of the physical processes that occur during menstruation are dangerous for the menstruating woman or her sexual partner. In fact, many women find sex during menstruation helps to relieve some of the more unpleasant symptoms that often accompany menstruation. For example, a woman may find that it helps to relieve cramps and tension. Some women even assert that sex helps relieve menstruation-related headaches and irritability.

A complete 12 trusted wisdom solely for women

Today I want to share a complete 12 trusted wisdom solely for my dear Women

1. A first class degree won't make you a first class wife rather your submission and respect will.
2. The woman who respects her husband is the best wife anyone would ever have.
3. Your character and attitude will go a long way in determining if your husband will wish he never regret getting married to you.
4. To be a great wife, you need more anger management skills than nagging skills.
5. Be a leader at work, or anywhere else but be a companion at home..It's wisdom!
6. Don't compete with your husband; compliment him.
7. Your strength is in humility and submission, not in strife and contention.
8. Be tender, every man respects a tender woman but firm.
9. Never try to punish your husband by starving him of food or sex, he maybe forced to get it outside.
10. There is nothing wrong in accepting that you are wrong when you are wrong.
11. Prepare to forgive your husband if he wrongs you..For a forgiving wife is better than a vengeful one.
12. Make a decision to be a good wife, you will need it in the long run..God bless the woman. 

How to put your partner in the mood for sex when NOT IN THE MOOD

As a marriage counsellor, most questios that drop most at times in my personal mail box is......
"Counsellor, mostly am in the mood to have sex but my partner mostly isn't, what do I do? "
Today I will address this conern from a complete more reliable view of a marriage counsellor.
This is a hard question to answer without any context.  If I assumed that your relationship is free of violence and coercion the short answer to your question might be that you should tell your partner you aren't in the mood to have sex, and see what happens next.  Maybe they'll ask why.  Maybe it will start a great conversation.

WHAT IS THE TIME FOR SEX

As a marriage counsellor, most questions that drop most at times in my personal mail box is......"Counsellor, what is the right time for sex in marraige, what do I do? "Today I will address this conern from a complete more reliable view of a marriage counsellor.
Someone who has never had sex before might write it just as it is above.

Respect In Marriage

As a marriage counsellor, most questions that drop most at times in my personal mail box is......Counsellor, there is no respect in my marriage, what do I do? Today I will address this conern from a complete more reliable view of a marriage counsellor.

I’ll post those receipts the way you say to, Ken, but Mr. Roland never had me do them that way,” said Margaret Lowe to her husband in their insurance office.
“Mr. Roland … it’s always ‘Mr. Roland did this’ or ‘Mr. Roland didn’t do that'” he snapped.
“Don’t forget, Ken,” Margaret said, “Mr. Roland was successful enough to sell out at 50 and move to Florida.”

Forgiveness In Marriage

The Need for Forgiveness

Neither Frank nor Kate Bonner really wanted to break up their home, yet they were heading in that After 23 years of marriage, Frank had become interested in a younger woman in his office. Kate said she could see why. Kate’s hair was gray, her hands showed the years of housework she had done, her face was lined with the wrinkles of middle age. She was tired much of the time and was subject to frequent and sudden illnesses.
Someone suggested that before they take the fateful step of filing for divorce they ought to seek professional counseling. They agreed, almost against their better judgment. In the first meeting it was Frank, not the injured Kate, who was depressed. He confessed he had tried suicide once, not seriously, but his mind was running in that direction.

Marriage God’s Way

As a marriage counsellor, most questions that drop most at times in my personal mail box is......"Counsellor, I think there is no bases on which our marriage stand in our marriage, what do I do? "Today I will address this conern from a complete more reliable view of a marriage counsellor. … present yourselves to God …” (Romans 6:13) Sometimes it seems as though a long-lasting marriage is determined by chance or circumstances or just plain old luck. However, there are some steps that will enable you to establish your marriage on a solid foundation that will help you stay in it for the long haul.

Taking this series of steps will bring your life into continuous subjection to the will of God. If you do not know Jesus Christ as your Savior, consider seeking someone out today who can show you how to know Him personally. Then follow these steps (and repeat as necessary!):

On What Foundation Does Your Marriage Stand On?

As a marriage counsellor, most questions that drop most at times in my personal mail box is......"Counsellor, I think there is no bases on which our marriage stand in our marriage, what do I do? "Today I will address this conern from a complete more reliable view of a marriage counsellor.
“I want to be a better spouse.” You say this, thinking back over a multitude of incidents that make up the history of your family. Some of them were funny when they happened; others are funny only as we look back on them. Still others were serious. Some were puzzling.

There are months on end when a husband and wife get along beautifully; and then, out of the clear blue sky, there are frequent disagreements. Then, just as mysteriously, things clear up. This is the ebb and flow, the fascination, the never-ending variety, the multitude of moods that make up family living.

Marriage Partnership or Cooperation?

Today lets talk about marriage being a partnership or cooperation.
The foundation upon which you build your marriage relationship is a mutually agreeable and mutually binding plan. That’s what makes marriage successful. It’s not a “tingle”; it’s a lifetime commitment. It’s not competition; it’s cooperation.

Harmony in Marriage

Today lets talk about ways of building our own marriage the Biblical way..How does your relationship with your marriage partner compare with the following standard? “I appeal to you, dear brothers and sisters, by the authority of our Lord Jesus Christ, to live in harmony with each other. Let there be no divisions in the church. Rather, be of one mind, united in thought and purpose.” 1 Corinthians 1:10 (NLTSE)

That scripture’s standard doesn’t leave much leeway, does it? There’s little room for individuality or for you to do your own thing. But those who proceed into marriage with an individualistic mindset create disharmony in their relationship, and usually end up lonely and unhappy.

However, when two people come to the place where they have the same mind, the same judgment, the same outlook, and the same goals–yes, they have given up their individuality, but they don’t lose their creativity. The relationship is centered on cooperation rather than opposition.

They are working together.Cooperation creates the oil that makes an effective relationship possible. And the golden thread that runs through that oil is love. Not the kind of love the world offers, that is stimulated by other people and other things, but the kind of love that God gives you. His love enables you to let go of your own way.