When two people become married their ideal is to accommodate each other in what ever way they can. So where are the answers to be found? Possibly in the lust of our own self-satisfaction? When each partner is fulfilling the needs of each other the marriage runs smooth.
The Reason
The reason people cheat in relationship on one another is quite simple. The partners are not meeting the expectations of each other. One of the partners will desire the other to respond the way they feel they should to accommodate their needs. By doing this there is no trust and respect for the individuality of their partner. The same is true when there is a, preconceived thought on how they want their partner to respond in a marriage and it does not happen. When this happens neither partner will do anything to accommodate each other, but begin to demand change to their preconceived idea of a perfect relationship.
The Little Things
Often times we get married even though there are several little things that are over looked. We end up focusing on all of the things we like about our partner not the little annoying issues. After all, we are taught to have a positive attitude in life. When these little irritable issues are not addressed they become a thorn in the side of the marriage. As time goes on they begin to erupt in many different ways. These little irritations easily lead to anger, hostility and infidelity.
When these self created ideals become a standard for one of the spouses in the relationship, the opposite spouse often has no idea of what is going on. When the political standards of a marriage are not met through the expectations of the opposite partner an adulterous relationship is often created.
A Solution
The solution is simple, but accomplishing the solution is very difficult. The solution comes through being able to see both sides of the cause of the cheating in a relationship. To often the first response is to blame the opposite party without looking at the part we may have had in an infidelity. The issue that divides is that each person wants the other person to be the way they would like them to be. This robs each partner from their own individuality. Words spoken without trust and respect to each other will reflect in the form of anger when the opposite spouse is not accommodating their desire. If you can look at the supernatural power and influence and remove yourself from blaming each other it becomes much easier to reconcile.
Unfortunately we were not born as clones to have precisely the same feelings, thoughts and reactions. The only solution is to not desire our spouse to live, speak and feel the same way we do. This by itself is a hard nut to crack, and when it does not happen with respect, only hostility and anger will prevail. By accepting your partner as an individual, rather than a desire of your imagination, respect and communication will begin and then grow in the relationship
I Only Saw What I Wanted To See
In my courtships before marriage, I only had vision to see what I wanted to see. Once in the relationship we realize everything is not exactly what we thought it would be. Like the old saying goes, “It is only greener on the other side of the fence until you get there.”
As I said before, “To reestablish a broken relationship there is no magic bullet. It takes hard work by understanding the needs of each other with forgiveness.”
