3 Tips to Maintain Your Relationship With God While Married

“An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world–how she can please her husband.”


Wait one minute, does that essentially say, “marriage can affect our relationship with God?” Yup and when I recognized the reality of this verse in my marriage, especially after my daughter arrived, it grieved me some. Between nursing, diaper changes, heading back and forth to work, helping my husband in ministry and trying to take care of home, there was less and less time for quality time with God. My responsibilities increase,  life is no longer just about me.
So I get… it can become difficult to manage it all being married with kids, especially as women our job can be round the clock.  It’s easy to disconnect from God simply because we are not able to give ourselves as much to the necessary things to keep a strong relationship with Him, like prayer, fasting, reading and studying the word. When I was single I was surely devoted to God, there were no distraction and it was much easier to find quality quiet time with Him.
Now, I have to be more intentional about making time for God and I, although, the above scripture is accurate in my life,  realize God is my first love and I’m also married to Him. In addition, in order to successfully accomplish all of my other goals and responsibilities in life, I need Him!
Below are 3 tips to maintain your relationship with God while married:

Things to AVOID Immediately After Making Love

1. Cuddling: 

You can't have amazing sex and then turn over and go to sleep, it's very awkward. Cuddling is the best way to relax after having a Great intimacy with your partner. 

Always cuddle your partner after intimacy.

Forgiveness When Cheated On

When two people become married their ideal is to accommodate each other in what ever way they can. So where are the answers to be found? Possibly in the lust of our own self-satisfaction? When each partner is fulfilling the needs of each other the marriage runs smooth.

But when cheating steps in, Forgiveness Can HELP.

Straight Talk

Let us get straight into how to forgive a cheating girlfriend problem. To start, you have to be certain that you're in-control of your reactions prior to discussing the problem with your girlfriend. If you're full of rage and anger and bitterness towards your girl and all of your thoughts tend to be about making her pay or be miserable, then it is too early to cope with her committing adultery.

Signs of Cheating Partners

When two people become married their ideal is to accommodate each other in what ever way they can. So where are the answers to be found? Possibly in the lust of our own self-satisfaction? When each partner is fulfilling the needs of each other the marriage runs smooth.

Leave Signs

A cheating partner will leave signs of their cheating on their husband wife or girlfriend. When uncertain of suspicious signs of your cheating man or woman it is best not to confront them. The confrontation will make them aware of their mistake, causing them to clean up their act and possibly make it more difficult to catch them.

These signs listed below were compiled by years of detective experience by our local detective.  They are somewhat dated, but the signs still apply today.  With the advancement of  technology,  the truth is found out much more rapidly than in the past.

Attentiveness

Signs Your Woman Is Cheating

When two people become married their ideal is to accommodate each other in what ever way they can. So where are the answers to be found? Possibly in the lust of our own self-satisfaction? When each partner is fulfilling the needs of each other the marriage runs smooth.

Determine The Signs
Typically, infidelity is committed more frequently by males. However, these days, many girlfriends are having illicit relationships. If you need to determine the signs girlfriend is cheating on you. The first thing is to be extremely attentive and responsive to the issues that are occurring around you. Girlfriends that are cheating will leave hidden signs of their infidelity

Why Do People Cheat In Relationships

When two people become married their ideal is to accommodate each other in what ever way they can. So where are the answers to be found? Possibly in the lust of our own self-satisfaction? When each partner is fulfilling the needs of each other the marriage runs smooth.

The Reason
The reason people cheat in relationship on one another is quite simple. The partners are not meeting the expectations of each other. One of the partners will desire the other to respond the way they feel they should to accommodate their needs. By doing this there is no trust and respect for the individuality of their partner. The same is true when there is a, preconceived thought on how they want their partner to respond in a marriage and it does not happen. When this happens neither partner will do anything to accommodate each other, but begin to demand change to their preconceived idea of a perfect relationship.

The Little Things

Why Do Women Cheat On Good Men

This is a question that a lot of good men would like to know the answer to. Especially when they are going through the experience and dealing with the emotional downfall.

It is a difficult experience for all men when their partner cheats on them. It is sad state of affairs often being left in the dark as to to why. Women have several reason why they cheat.  By understanding their outlook you will be able to prevent it from happening in the future and understand better what pushed her to do something like that.

Biggest Reason
One of the biggest reasons why some women would do the unthinkable is that they just do not feel important or cherished by their men. A woman needs to feel important to her man, she needs to feel that she is appreciated and when she lacks that she might look for it somewhere else. Most women put so much into their relationships, that when they feel neglected and unappreciated, they are overcome with a feeling of sadness and worthlessness. Also know as intimidation.

Left For Another Man
First off, if your wife left you for another man, there is a chance that she was experiencing sexual dissatisfaction. While it is by no means a good reason to break years of hard work and growing together, she may feel reluctant to tell you about it and would rather seek that satisfaction from someone different providing sexual communications to accommodate her needs

No excuse for cheating

1. If you are a highly sexual person, commit to someone you find sexy. Don’t marry yet still wander around outside because your kind of sexiness cannot be found at home.

2. If your relationship/marriage is going through issues, cheating will not solve them. Cheating only complicates things. Love is not for cowards who look for the easy way and escape route; but for the brave who make it work.

3. If your partner cheats on you, don’t revenge by cheating back. No tit for tat. No “two can play that game”. Don’t demean yourself and lower your values and principles just because your partner did. End the love. Walk out with your dignity intact.

Ways people express love

One of the best, but most challenging things about love, is that each of us feel, express, and experience it differently.

Perhaps this is why it’s such a difficult emotion to explain, because of how subjective it can be.

At first, this may all seem great. But over time, you may verbally express your love more than you do physically. Your partner hears words, but sees no actions to back them up. This can make them doubt your feelings towards them, or make them feel unappreciated.

Words of affirmation.
Words of affirmation are important when expressing your appreciation, regardless of how small the thing is that someone’s done for you. Some people, though, are less verbally expressive and may communicate using one of the other love languages.
Their idea of reciprocating what you do may be through acts of service or receiving gifts, so they’ll do things for you or give you a token of their appreciation. But if you don’t feel love in this language, you’ll eventually begin to wonder if they appreciate you and everything you do for them. This is why it’s important to not only express your appreciation verbally, but to communicate to your significant other how you feel love.

Phone etiquette rules for couples

Phone use can affect your relationship/marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone.
1. Don’t make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you’re with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something.

2. Save your partner’s phone number using a special title like “Hubby”, “Love”, “Wife”, “Sweetie”. Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone.

3. Answer your partner’s phone call with loving affectionate words like “Hi love”, “Hey honey”. How a conversation starts determines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone.

Sex steroids

This subject has being ringing bells in a lot of couples mind. Today lets go much deeper into the

subject of sex steroids. Sex steroids are fat soluble compounds that are important in reproduction, sexual function, and sexual development. The endocrine glands are responsible for the production of sex steroids in both men and women. In most human beings, sex steroids are secreted over the course of an entire lifetime, though the levels of production and release often vary. For example, the level of production often increases when a person reaches puberty and then declines in conjunction with old age.

Sex During Menstruation

This subject has being ringing bells in a lot of couples mind. Today lets go much deeper into the subject of sex during menstruation. Generally, sex is safe during menstruation. None of the physical processes that occur during menstruation are dangerous for the menstruating woman or her sexual partner. In fact, many women find sex during menstruation helps to relieve some of the more unpleasant symptoms that often accompany menstruation. For example, a woman may find that it helps to relieve cramps and tension. Some women even assert that sex helps relieve menstruation-related headaches and irritability.

Make Good Decisions about Life Together

Today I want us to deal with the subject of how to make good decisions in our marriage together the Biblical way and the Christian manner. Decisions in marriage are keen in keeping the union intact'

A. Seek God for direction.
 The Scriptures can give us God's direction. (Ps. 119:105). A believer does not need to struggle about decisions that God's Word makes clear. For example, it is easy to decide to attend church. The Bible makes this an easy decision. Likewise, the Bible helps us make the right decisions about tithing, disciplining children, and godly living. "I gain understanding from your precepts; therefore I hate every wrong path" (Ps. 119:104). 

For many decisions, there is a chapter and verse in the Bible. Our faithfulness to God helps us receive His direction."Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"(Prov. 3:5-6). Faithfulness pleases the heart of God. God guides the steps of those who trust and honor Him. "The path of the righteous is like the first gleam of dawn, shining ever brighter till the full light of day"(Prov. 4:18).

Prayer helps us receive God's direction."If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him" (James 1:5). Jesus Himself spent the night in prayer before choosing 12 apostles (Luke 6:12-16). A husband and wife should pray separately and together when they are seeking God's direction.

B.  Seek agreement with your spouse.
God wants His Church to dwell in unity and peace, having the same mind and purpose (Phil. 2:1-4). And the local church is only as united and peaceful as the families in it. The Bible teaches that the husband is the head of the home and his wife should submit to him. But a wise husband does not make important decisions without his wife. Remember that God did not create woman from man's foot.

He made her from man's rib; a place at his side and near his heart. God's plan is for a husband and wife to discuss important matters together. The husband and the wife each have strengths and weaknesses but together, they are complete. What the husband does not see, the wife may see. What the wife does not consider, the husband may discern. When they agree about a decision, they are a powerful team.

If a couple cannot agree, then they should each submit to God and pray. They should delay a major decision until both hear from God and agree. Or they should delay until the wife feels good about submitting her will to her husband even if she does not agree completely. When a husband is patient, he will give his wife time to receive grace to support him. If a husband demands quick submission then, the wife will blame him later if things go wrong. A husband may be able to force his wife to follow his decisions, but only the woman can submit her will.

C.  Have understanding and patience for the way your spouse makes decisions.
Paul reminds us that in relating to each other, we need "understanding, patience and kindness" (2 Cor. 6:6). People make decisions at different speeds.  Some are very slow to decide, so slow that they rarely decide at all! Those who are slow to decide are cautious, and may find it hard to choose. At the other extreme are people who make decisions very fast—perhaps too fast. In between these two extremes we find people making decisions at various speeds. This causes us to realize that the husband and wife may not make decisions at the same speed. So each must understand and show love to the other. Remember, love is patient and kind (1 Cor. 13:4).

If a husband and wife have opposite ways of making decisions, try this. Set a deadline—a date by which the decision must be made. Then the quick person can relax, knowing the decision will be made by a certain time. The slower one can think about the decision without feeling pressured to hurry. Also, this will allow time for prayer, discussion, counsel, and gathering facts. Some are very factual and want all the facts before deciding. They want to research and make sure they have all the information about a decision. Gathering facts can go on forever. In the other direction are those who base their decisions only on their feelings.

These are not concerned about all of facts. It may be hard for them to say why, but they both facts and feelings to make decisions.If a husband and wife often decide in different ways, try this. Agree to allow both facts and feelings, but put limits on each. Agree what information will be helpful and who will find it. Agree on when the research will end. Agree to pray and discuss the decision. Let each person express feelings.
Those who are steadfast make a decision and stay with it. These are confident after they decide. They are like a post driven in the ground; steadfast and sure. In contrast, some people decide, and then begin to have doubts. New questions or new circumstances cause them to be like a reed blowing in the wind. In between these two extremes are people who are steadfast, but may have some doubts about a decision.

Concerning decisions, if one spouse is confident and the other is doubtful, try this. Plan for a period of time to review a new decision. Then the person who is steadfast and confident about deciding will know that the decision is not final until after the review time. Also, this time for review will give the doubtful person a few days to live with a new decision. At the end of the review time. if both agree on the decision., then it will be final. Then, they will both face the future and not discuss doubts about the past decision. We have considered the ways in which people make decisions: slow or fast, factual or emotional; and the way they feel after decisions, confident or doubtful. All may be spiritual, yet they decide in different ways. Discern that a person who decides slowly may be the husband or the wife. And the one who decides quickly may base the decision on facts and/or feelings. Seek to understand the way you and your spouse make decisions and to value each other. Together, you can make better decisions than either could alone. God planned marriage so that two different people could help each other. When a husband and wife decide together, the strengths of both help their marriage.

D. Base decisions on godly priorities in your marriage.
Priorities are the things that a person cares about most. If people's highest priority is how they look then, they will buy nice clothes instead of books. If a person's highest priority is pleasure then, he will spend much time and money seeking fun. People's priorities guide their choices. Believers should seek to match their top priorities with things that please God. Husbands and wives may have some different priorities. If their priorities are not the same, this will hinder their ability to agree on decisions. Disagreeing does not always mean that one spouse is right and the other one is wrong.

Vagina Stuffs some Guys really Don't Care About

Lets discuss the female sex organ from most guys point of view that our dear dear women have real time battling with... IT MAY SOUND WEIRED BUT TRUE TO SOME EXTENT

​1. The way you've chosen to arrange your pubic hair. Pubic hair is to your vagina (or penis) the way a lawn is to a house: Most people aren't going to be too bothered by it as long as it looks like someone lives there. It doesn't have to be perfectly manicured. No one wants a spooky, boarded-up vagina that looks like a haunted house, but other than that, it's all good.

2. The way your labia look. ​Some vaginas have big lips, small lips, lips that stick out, or lips you can barely see. Just like all of God's creatures, they are all beautiful. You might see your vagina's entrance as a tentacle-monster we'll have to bat away with an oar like a salty fisherman. We just see it as a vagina.

3. How big (or small) it is. ​I'm sure, somewhere out there, extremely deep or extremely shallow vaginas exist. You're probably not a world-record setter. Don't sweat it. If it's impeding your comfort or enjoyment of sex, you may want to see a doctor, but I can assure you that guys don't care about this.

Why Don't I Feel to have Sex?

"No one knows what 'normal libido' is, "It's a problem if the woman says it is." What experts are split on is if meds are the answer.

Flibanserin purports to treat female sexual dysfunction, meaning a reduced amount or lack of interest in sexual activity, fantasies, pleasure, or arousal (even in response to partner initiation) lasting more than six months that's not due to something else.

Whether or not the drug is okayed, if this sounds familiar, ask your doc if one of these "something elses" is the source of your libido's crash.

Your Pill

How to Be a Loving Husband

Lets talk about how you can be a loving husband to your wife, children and to yourself as well the christian way.Christ commands husbands to love their wives in the same way that He loves His church.

A. A husband's love is gentle.
Love is never harsh (1 Cor. 13:4-5). Jesus is gentle with the Church and is the example of how
a husband must be gentle with his wife. "Here is my servant whom I have chosen, the one I love, in whom I delight; I will put my Spirit on him … He will not quarrel or cry out; no one will hear his voice in the streets. A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out, till he leads justice to victory" (Matt. 12:18-20).

Jesus is gentle with us. A bruised reed is so fragile that a slight wind will break it. Some men are so rough that they knock the bark off of a tree. But Jesus is so gentle that he will not break a bruised reed. Some men are so rough that they would knock a candle off of the table. But the touch of Jesus would not disturb or put out a smoking candle. Jesus is the husband's example of gentleness.
"Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them" (Col. 3:19).

Unresolved Anger: Recipe for distruction in marriage

ANGER!!!!!!!!. Recipe for disaster among many marriges.Today we going to talk about what destroys many marriages

1. Define the Offense
To handle unresolved anger you need to focus on its root cause... your unfulfilled expectations. Your spouse hasn't done what you expected them to do. You're let down... hurt... you're angry. So first, identify your unmet expectation.
Take a look at your part in having this need unmet? Did you expect your spouse to just "know" what you wanted? Did you make assumptions about their actions? Did you come right out and say what you needed? That's often the only way to make sure your needs are known.

So, don't stew and pout on the inside. To get rid of, and prevent, unresolved anger it's your responsibility to be direct about your expectations. "Honey, I expected you to invite my parents for dinner too. I need you to tell me I look nice when we get dressed up to go out." Be open and direct to avoid future cases of unresolved anger.

The Three Stages of Growth in Marriage (Biblical marriage)

I want to share what I came across on a site by  Dr. Wayde Goodall
The Bible tells us, "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established" (Prov. 24:3). In other words, God wants you to be wise and understand how to build your marriage and family.

The wise couple will understand that there are common stages in a marriage. Many marriages fail because of ignorance. People enter marriage but do not know how to succeed in it for life. Many believe that the emotion of romantic love will carry them through life.

Top Tips to Choose Your Future Partner...

Know yourself : This step is very important if you really want to choose the right future partner. 

You have to know yourself. Some people are searching in all corners of the earth for their soul mate but come back in vain. 

One of the reasons of that failure is that the bachelor did not ask himself. So the, before loving someone, before making your choice on the right guy or girl to marry, start by asking yourself the real questions: who are you?

6 Signs He is Getting Ready to Break up with You...

He will soon break up with you if… 

1. He becomes distant: 
When guys start being very distant unreasonably, watch it. He is detaching himself emotionally from you. It means that his mind is somewhere else and that maybe, he isn’t ready to keep his commitment to you.


 2. He consistently does not bother to return your calls: 
Look! Any guy who is in love always returns his lady’s calls. When he stops caring, blocking you off is the first move. Guys block off every communication channel with the girl they are “done with” If you notice this, ask him why? The answers he will give you will help you know what he is up to.