“An unmarried woman or virgin is
concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord
in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the
affairs of this world–how she can please her husband.”
Wait one minute, does that
essentially say, “marriage can affect our relationship with God?” Yup
and when I recognized the reality of this verse in my marriage,
especially after my daughter arrived, it grieved me some. Between
nursing, diaper changes, heading back and forth to work, helping my
husband in ministry and trying to take care of home, there was less and
less time for quality time with God. My responsibilities increase, life
is no longer just about me.
So I get… it can become difficult to
manage it all being married with kids, especially as women our job can
be round the clock. It’s easy to disconnect from God simply because we
are not able to give ourselves as much to the necessary things to keep a
strong relationship with Him, like prayer, fasting, reading and
studying the word. When I was single I was surely devoted to God, there
were no distraction and it was much easier to find quality quiet time
with Him.
Now, I have to be more intentional
about making time for God and I, although, the above scripture is
accurate in my life, realize God is my first love and I’m also married
to Him. In addition, in order to successfully accomplish all of my other
goals and responsibilities in life, I need Him!
Below are 3 tips to maintain your relationship with God while married:
1.You’re Not the Only One.
Social media has a way of making us think we are the only single
Christian men and women left on planet Earth. There have been many
occasions that I have logged on Facebook only to find that my friend was
in a relationship or see someone has gotten engaged. Then of course,
all the feelings come flooding in your mind. When it will be my turn?
What’s wrong with me? I’m the only one left!
This isn’t true at all. The enemy tries to trick us into thinking
that were are alone in our single season. Nope! There are many single
Christian men and women, just like us. They are praying, waiting and hoping for the day to come that God reveals their spouse to them. Don’t become weary in this season because you’re not the only one.
2. God Knows Your Future
Often we start to grow impatient thinking that God has forgotten
about us. He is blessing everyone else with a mate but we’re still
single. We want God to reveal the future to us but it’s funny that He doesn’t give us all the details. What would be the point of trusting Him, if He told us everything? There would be no reason to stand strong on the word of God.
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares
the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a
hope and a future.”
Trust that God knows the future. He knows when He will manifest the
blessing of you having a mate. Don’t give up on the promises of God.
Mediate on His word, day and night. Know that your season is coming
because God knows your future.
